I was the queen of self sabotage. Early on in my business, I would absolutely self-sabotage. I would be the girl who had the vision board, my why(s) all figured out, my follow up sheet & everything I need to do & I'd be on it for 2-3 months & then all of a sudden for whatever reason, I'd stop working, showing up or even plugging in. In my mind it would be everyone else's fault - I don't feel inspired - it's my team or the products or the system or some xyz reason but I'd stop showing up.
Limiting beliefs are the basis of all of our fear.
Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of being judged. Some of us are actually afraid of success. All because of our limiting beliefs. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Being aware of our limiting beliefs takes the power back from the fear, giving it into your hands so you can live a fuller & more fearless life.
Here are some examples of Limiting Beliefs & how to combat them when the fear creeps in -
Fear Of Being Judged
When you start your own business or do anything new, the fear of being judged by family & friends creeps in more quickly than anything else.
Solution - I need to get over the fear of being judged. The people that love me & support me won't judge me. And those that don't, their opinions don't matter. You can not let the opinion of others STOP you from living your life & doing what you love.
Who am I to be successful?
A lot of people struggled with the thought of success. They struggled with the impostor syndrome thinking who the heck are they to say this or do this or even build a business? Who the heck are they to lead or teach other people or show up and make a change? I'm just a college dropout, I'm just a "wife", I'm just a "mom". I'm not those people that these things happen to. I'm not that person that success happens to.
Solution - Start by OWNING IT. What you have to decide before you get into any business or before you start seeing success in your business, in your life, in your truth or passion or whatever the journey you are on is that you are worth it. You have to decide who you are to have that. For me it's Meagan effing Anderson - that's who I am to have this. And my journey, my truth, my story & things that I know & skills that I have can change lives if I share them. That's who I am to have this.
So next time the though of who I am to be successful comes in, step into your power & remind yourself of your worthiness.
Fear of judgement
Rejection stinks. I won't lie. We've all been through rejection & it's not fun. But you can not let the fear of rejection stop you from doing what you love or whatever it is that you want to do.
Solution - Ask yourself what's the worst thing that can happen if you get rejected? Someone will say no or you'll make a mistake or mess of yourself. What else can go wrong?
Then think of what can go right? What will you learn from being rejected? From making a mistake?
You are not along. People make mistakes all the time & it only helps them get better.
Fear of being Too Late
I'm too old for this / I'm too late, there are so many people already doing this / I've failed once before. . .
The excuses & reasons for not starting something new can be endless. No matter what the age, how many people already in the niche/industry, it's never too late & you always have something NEW to offer that other's don't.
Solution - Think of ways you can make the niche/industry yours. How can you own it? What new element can you bring to the table that others aren't? If you are selling make up, how can you make women feel empowered that no-one else is trying to do?
And even if you fail, at least you won't live with regrets or what-if(s).
I'm don't know anything about the industry/niche
A lot of people don't do anything new because of the fear of not having all the information. Being scared of joining NM because you don't know anything about it or being scared of starting that food blog because you are not so tech-savvy. Whatever your niche/industry be that you want to start in, there's always ways to learn on the job.
Solution - Find out how you can learn about the industry or the niche you want to get in? Find a coach/mentor or a friend whose done it & ask them for help.
You will stumble, you will be overwhelmed but it's better to get paid to learn & make mistakes than to not do anything at all.
What limiting beliefs are you dealing with? Share with me in the comments below & let's find a way together to kick fear in the curb!