When you think about the women you look up to the most in your life and in business, what comes to mind?
Charisma, experience, and expertise are usually at the top of the list, but would it surprise you to know that those are not the most important characteristics?
In fact, while those things do make a difference, there’s one thing that is absolutely a game changer, and you can’t even see it.
It’s true. In everything you do, whether in business or in life, your mindset is the determining factor when it comes to your success and life. Without the right mindset, you will forever be attracting + working the wrong people, situations and even clients!
So if you’re really ready to manifest the life you WANT and DESERVE, you have to do some internal work. It’s time to make some changes to your own mindset.
Changing Your Attitude
One thing charismatic and personable people have in common is a good attitude. Think about it; you’ll probably never see these women you admire complaining about how the kids are sick, “again!” or that the cable repair guy is 40 minutes late, or even that the car blew a tire.
Instead, you see their expressions of gratitude in everything. If the kids are sick, they’re grateful to have a business that allows them to stay home and play nurse. If the cable guy is late, they’re grateful to have 40 extra minutes to read a book instead of watch television. And if the car died in the middle of running a week’s worth of errands, they’re happy to have found a mechanic who does great work at a reasonable price.
If you find yourself complaining—even in your head—turn your attitude around. There’s nearly always something to be grateful for, even in the worst situations. And when you can rethink and revise your attitude for the better, you’ll not only be happier, but you’ll start to attract what you actually WANT and love!
Growing Your Confidence
Here’s another thing these women you admire have in common: confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk with confidence filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening. They don’t question or dislike who they are.
It’s not cocky or arrogant, it’s just confidence. And if you don’t have it yet, you can take steps to increase it.
Start by asking yourself, in any new or uncomfortable situation, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
Of those worst-case scenarios, look at what you have control over, and let the rest go!
So if you’ve agreed to speak in front of a small group of business owners, and your fear is that you’ll flub your speech, practicing beforehand will greatly improve your confidence.
Next, get inside the head of someone who is confident in what you’re about to do. Walk onto that stage as if you’ve been doing it for years, and not only will you feel more confident, but you’ll be more confident. You can use the “as if” attitude in everything from creating a new product to closing a sale. Whenever you feel your confidence failing, just remember to act as if you’ve done this successfully hundreds of times.
Just like how the person you’re talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, and you can feel when someone in a bad mood enters the room --those around you (and the universe) can sense your mindset and respond accordingly!