What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you think or hear the term - Radical Self Care?
If you are not familiar with the term radical, let’s skip that for a moment, will talk about it later & talk about “self-care”.
What are some things you do to take care of yourself? Something you do exclusively just for YOU?
Do you get a massage? Do you color your hair or get a pedicure? Maybe go for a spa or get some quiet time to read? Do you go shopping?
Self-care means different things for different people! As Ruby Warrington, author of “Material Girl, Mystical World” rightly puts it, self-care is a holistic practice. It’s not just limited to rose-scented Epsom salt baths (they are given!!) but a more holistic approach covering the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspect of your life/body.
Self-care is a radical notion for women, especially moms/wives or busy career women that are constantly judged for putting their needs first before others. It’s against the societal norms and hence it’s radical.
Here’s a list of 10 things you can do to add more radical self-care into your life and get started RIGHT NOW! No excuses. You don’t need to get extra things, you don’t need to spend any extra $$ to get started and hence have no excuses to stop you from taking action!
Ready? Let’s Dive in!
Meditation - Meditation for me is a simple exercise of breathing in & out & making time to have a pulse check with myself. You can meditate in a lot of different ways, from sitting up straight and listening to your breath or you could listen to a guided tune on YouTube or an app on your phone that allows you to quiet that monkey mind; it can also be active meditation in form of walks in nature. Whatever helps you quiet the internal chatter and listen.
Eat Whole - Read it again! I didn’t say diet/ I didn’t say eat a certain way or certain food or go Keto! Focus on eating whole, healthy that makes you and your body happy. It’s a mindset shift.
Those of you who know me, also know that I was a self proclaimed junk food queen. I still love my junk food, but when I started taking care of myself, started paying attention to my body, putting myself first, those cans of Coke stopped appealing me.
Live in the moment - How many of you struggle with staying in the present moment? Not worrying about tomorrow, not feeling regret over something in the past, just focused on what’s in front of you or what’s happening in THAT moment? I won’t deny, the struggle is real but you’ve got to train your mind to stay in the present rather than staying stuck on that never-ending conveyor belt of past, present, past, present, past present. You got to focus on the present.
Move your body - What are some things that you guys do for your body? Do you go to the gym? Do you lift weights? Do you do cardio? Do you do classes? Do you go for walks?
I know you can list a 100 reasons why you can’t go to the gym or take a class or take time out to move your body from finances to kids, husband etc. etc. But I want to tell you baby doll they are all excuses! There I said it! You don’t need to spend $$ if you can’t to move your body. There are so many other ways like dancing your heart out, walking outdoors in nature & yoga! All you have to do is make it a priority & take time out!
Forgive yourself - A lot of people have 2 different reactions when I say this. 1) But Meagan, what do I forgive myself for? 2) That’s ridiculous! I haven’t done anything wrong!
If you are the reactive or the latter types, then this point is more so for you! Radical self love starts with forgiving yourself for being so harsh on yourself, setting unreasonable expectations and putting chains or barriers around yourself. If you’re regretting a bad decision you made, or if you wish you’d done something differently, or if you have a habit that you’re trying to give up and it’s hard, it’s probably because you are being hard on yourself. If reading all the pointers & thinking of taking time off for yourself makes you feel undeserving it’s because you are being too hard on yourself and you need to forgive yourself. Replace the ego with love and start working on self-forgiveness journey.
Take Time Off - We are always running / doing / going somewhere. And in this hustle-bustle of life, it’s important to take some time off. Just retreat from the world, hang in your white flag and say - I am out!
Some days, you’re just like, I’m not feeling it today. Maybe it’s a Saturday. Maybe you’re off work, and all you want to do is just unplug, stay in bed and watch Netflix. But we don’t always get to do it! We have kids, husband, family, chores. . . everything that needs us! But it’s okay to just say NO! It’s okay to take a day off, go in hibernation and rejuvenate yourself.
And for the entrepreneur ladies, just like it’s important to take a day off, it’s equally essential to take a sabbatical from your electronics. Whether you are building a business, or following up with customers put the damn thing down for a few hrs. Not to mention your secondary devices like TVs, computers, gadgets etc. Give yourself some rest by getting away from the constant non=sleeping, non-ending world of social media. It’ll still be here when you’ll log in after a few hrs or even a few days.
Epsom Salt bath - Rose scented epsom salt baths are given when it comes to self care. Right?! Just kidding. If you are not a bath person, you can always do looong uninterrupted showers or spa! Personally I love a good long epsom salt bath to raise my vibration. Sale bath not only balances your magnesium, it also affects your physiology and your mindset.
I will simply soak myself in the bath for 20 minutes let my worries, stress, unbalanced and my funky energy all go down the drain. I visualize all the negative, clogged up energy that doesn’t serve me anymore going down the drain.
Trust your intuition - If you are taking care of yourself, meditating, walking in the nature & connecting with yourself, you’re going to build a strong connection with your intuition and to your higher self.
Massage - Get a massage or body scrub or spend time doing your own facial. Do something that’s a bit out of the norm, requires planning and gets you out of your comfort zone!
Do things that you won’t usually do unless it’s a special occasion because you don’t feel deserved or worthy of splurging on yourself. Remember, you are worth of every penny and there is a way to make it happen, and every time you elevate yourself and you step up for yourself and you show up for yourself, and you do for yourself and sometimes you do a little splurge, you’re raising your vibe of what is possible for you. You’re raising your vibe of saying, Alright universe, I get it. I deserve this.
Do what you love - Take time out to do something that you love. Be it a job or a hobby. Make a list of all the things that you love doing like activities or people that you want to be around, experiences you want to have, anything & everything that you love and that excites you. Make a list and then make it happen.
Practice Gratitude - Bonus radical self love tip - practice gratitude. Be grateful for where you are, what you have, who you are and everyone who’s in your life right now. Your career or business, experiences, things around you. . . there’s so much to be grateful for. Become so grateful & so in love with your life that gratitude just exudes from you and becomes contagious to people around you.
What are you going to start doing today? Share how you take care of your self - physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually in the comments below!