Do you want more joy in your life?
I know it sounds like a silly Q but seriously. . . Do you want more joy in your life?
Today, I wanted to share my best 3 secrets for a successful & happy life.
But before we get into it, there’s something I wanted to share with you. Do you agree that social media is a place that shows the easy side of our lives?
On social media we take snapshots of our life, of our day, of our children, of ourselves, & share them on social media. So it's very very simple for us to make those snapshots look easy, look amazing, look positive all the time because we filter the hell out of those! This is the easy part of social media, this is the truthful part and a lot of you are living in that good enough condition - things are good enough, things are fine, things aren't bad so they are good by default & then when someone says how are you - you say I'm fine & I want to challenge you to STOP accepting good enough.
Good enough is not good enough. Being fine is not fine. I want to rattle your cage. You are worth more. You were made for more. You deserve more than that & so many of you have lost the joy & I want to help you to be happy in the moment, in YOUR moment, in THIS moment.
Being happy isn't the thing in the future, having more joy in your life isn't something you need to strive for, it's something you can have in this moment, right now, wherever you are. No matter what's going on, no matter what struggles you are having, no matter what financial hardships you are facing, it doesn't matter. Finding joy in this moment, in every moment is the secret of true lasting happiness, It's not elusive or your emotions aren't a ping pong ball; so I've bottom down to 3 steps.
Before I get into it, I want you to do an experiment. For the next 2 weeks, I want you to follow these 3 steps. Are you ready?
Let's go! 3 Secrets for a successfully happy life -
1) Assess your life
By assess your life I don't mean I have 2.5 children, I have 2 dogs, I'm married, I work here, I have this home. . . NO!
I want you to really assess your life, take a pulse of your life, take a check point of your life - how do you feel? How are you feeling your life - right now? your situation? in your moment. . .how do you feel?
Do you feel powerful? Invisible? Scared? Joyful? Overwhelmed? Exuberant? There are so many things. . but how do you feel in your life?
And more importantly than that, when you are taking a pulse of how you feel & you are accessing that life I need you to look & feel - Is how I feel a direct response of situations around me?
Are you happy because you had a good day & then the next day are you pissed off because things went bad? Meaning, are the situations around you or experiences around you dictating your emotions to where you are just a ping-pong & you totally have no control? If it's so, the next 2 steps are going to be so important for you.
Are you in control of your emotions or is the day or the circumstances are in control?
Once you access your life, take that emotional inventory, be really real & raw, no body's going to see what you write down or what you assign to your feelings except you, unless you want to share it with someone in your life. SO feel safe to say the real words.
Once you've done that we move to step 2.
2) Look at how you numb yourself.
Look at how you numb yourself every single day. Here are some instances / ways you that you might be doing - alcohol, medication, eating/indulging in food, shopping / spending money, coming home & turning on Netflix for a 10 hr binge. . . anything that causes your mind to go somewhere else to escape the situation or a feeling. How do you numb yourself?
One of my biggest numbers has been alcohol - when I'm scared, I'm stressed out, when I'm sad - "I just need a glass of wine to feel better". And a lot of you might be like - Meagan but that's normal, we are Americans or a glass of wine everyday, there's no problem there.
And there's no problem there but when the cause behind it is to numb an emotion, you've really got to STOP, LOOK & THINK! Ask yourself - "Is this something I need or is it something that's more destructive?". Same thing with food.
I'm stressed out, I feel like crap, whatever the reason may be, I used indulge in food. Let me eat yummy food or let me just eat a piece of cake that then becomes a piece of cake & a cheese cake, a piece of cake, a cheese cake & some left overs & on & on so I can get lost in this activity instead of thinking about what's coming.
Write down the things that you use to numb yourself. Maybe amazon is your number, you go on amazon & you mindlessly shop to get that thrill, that addiction, that perk, that happiness for a second to change how you feeling right now.
We're going to learn how to not go to the numbers so you are not having to fix a broken record but you are actually living in joy no matter what's going on around you! It's okay to acknowledge the things you go to for numbing yourself so you can let them go.
Look at those things so you can give them up for 2 weeks & see how you feel.
3) Find your center
Find something everyday that motivates you, find something that brings you to the center, find something that brings you back to your happy place.
Maybe that's meditation, maybe that's working out or personal development, maybe it's plugging into a podcast, maybe it's listening to a motivational speaker, maybe it's kicking ass in your biz, maybe it's going for a walk, maybe it's journal-ling, maybe it's reading a book or singing a song, whatever it is it's yours.
You've got to find something that you can do every single day to raise your vibe. It has to become a part of you, it has to become a habit that when you don't do it, you feel like there's something completely lacking.
You've got to really invest in it because here's whats going to happen. It's going to go back to number 2. So when you plug into something that gives you the spark, that gives you the happiness, that makes you feel successful or complete; something that raises your vibe so when the trigger comes that you want to do the thing that numbs you, you've got your "go-to".
And for 2 weeks you are going to plug into that thing that brings you back to your joy & to your happiness, that resets your vibe.
Here's what it's going to do to your subconscious -
1 - It's going to bring you back to your joy, you are going to be mindful of coming back to your job instead of choosing a number.
2 - It's going to show your subconsciousness that you can trust yourself. It's going to show your subconsciousness that you are in control of your emotions, not your day, not your circumstances, not how your biz is doing etc. You are showing yourself that you are truely in control of how you feel and once your subconscious can really accept that and your ego can take a back seat, you start being happy & joyful in every single moment of your life. You start being joyful right now, in this moment no matter what this moment is, you have control.
I'm not saying you'll never be sad, stressed or angry, you'll have those feelings but you'll always have joy & when you experience those things you realize that they are nothing more than just experiences. They are just moments that too shall pass.
But in that heart, you've got that powerful joy!
So I challenge you guys if you are willing to do this with me for 2 weeks -
Step 1 is assess your life and where you are in it right now & are your emotions your emotions or are they reactive to things around you? I know most of you are going to say - I'm reactive/ I'm a ping pong as people & situations around me dictate how I feel.
Step 2 is being real and figuring out what are the things you reach to to numb your emotions when your vibe is low or when you are feeling crappy?
Step 3 is deciding to no longer numb the crappy moments but to raise the vibe to that joyous state so you are no longer in numb-vile. And you believe in yourself, you empower yourself and watch it spread into your relationship, into your business, into your health, in your body & into your spiritual experience. It's going to spread into your light that you are putting into the world.