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3 Secrets For A Successful & Happy Life

Do you want more joy in your life?

I know it sounds like a silly Q but seriously. . . Do you want more joy in your life?

Today, I wanted to share my best 3 secrets for a successful & happy life.

But before we get into it, there’s something I wanted to share with you. Do you agree that social media is a place that shows the easy side of our lives?

On social media we take snapshots of our life, of our day, of our children, of ourselves, & share them on social media. So it's very very simple for us to make those snapshots look easy, look amazing, look positive all the time because we filter the hell out of those! This is the easy part of social media, this is the truthful part and a lot of you are living in that good enough condition - things are good enough, things are fine, things aren't bad so they are good by default & then when someone says how are you - you say I'm fine & I want to challenge you to STOP accepting good enough.

Good enough is not good enough. Being fine is not fine. I want to rattle your cage. You are worth more. You were made for more. You deserve more than that & so many of you have lost the joy & I want to help you to be happy in the moment, in YOUR moment, in THIS moment.

Being happy isn't the thing in the future, having more joy in your life isn't something you need to strive for, it's something you can have in this moment, right now, wherever you are. No matter what's going on, no matter what struggles you are having, no matter what financial hardships you are facing, it doesn't matter. Finding joy in this moment, in every moment is the secret of true lasting happiness, It's not elusive or your emotions aren't a ping pong ball; so I've bottom down to 3 steps.

Before I get into it, I want you to do an experiment. For the next 2 weeks, I want you to follow these 3 steps. Are you ready?

Let's go! 3 Secrets for a successfully happy life -

1) Assess your life

By assess your life I don't mean I have 2.5 children, I have 2 dogs, I'm married, I work here, I have this home. . . NO!

I want you to really assess your life, take a pulse of your life, take a check point of your life - how do you feel? How are you feeling your life - right now? your situation? in your moment. . .how do you feel?

Do you feel powerful? Invisible? Scared? Joyful? Overwhelmed? Exuberant? There are so many things. . but how do you feel in your life?

And more importantly than that, when you are taking a pulse of how you feel & you are accessing that life I need you to look & feel - Is how I feel a direct response of situations around me?

Are you happy because you had a good day & then the next day are you pissed off because things went bad? Meaning, are the situations around you or experiences around you dictating your emotions to where you are just a ping-pong & you totally have no control? If it's so, the next 2 steps are going to be so important for you.

Are you in control of your emotions or is the day or the circumstances are in control?

Once you access your life, take that emotional inventory, be really real & raw, no body's going to see what you write down or what you assign to your feelings except you, unless you want to share it with someone in your life. SO feel safe to say the real words.

Once you've done that we move to step 2.

2) Look at how you numb yourself.

Look at how you numb yourself every single day. Here are some instances / ways you that you might be doing - alcohol, medication, eating/indulging in food, shopping / spending money, coming home & turning on Netflix for a 10 hr binge. . . anything that causes your mind to go somewhere else to escape the situation or a feeling. How do you numb yourself?

One of my biggest numbers has been alcohol - when I'm scared, I'm stressed out, when I'm sad - "I just need a glass of wine to feel better". And a lot of you might be like - Meagan but that's normal, we are Americans or a glass of wine everyday, there's no problem there.

And there's no problem there but when the cause behind it is to numb an emotion, you've really got to STOP, LOOK & THINK! Ask yourself - "Is this something I need or is it something that's more destructive?". Same thing with food.

I'm stressed out, I feel like crap, whatever the reason may be, I used indulge in food. Let me eat yummy food or let me just eat a piece of cake that then becomes a piece of cake & a cheese cake, a piece of cake, a cheese cake & some left overs & on & on so I can get lost in this activity instead of thinking about what's coming.

Write down the things that you use to numb yourself. Maybe amazon is your number, you go on amazon & you mindlessly shop to get that thrill, that addiction, that perk, that happiness for a second to change how you feeling right now.

We're going to learn how to not go to the numbers so you are not having to fix a broken record but you are actually living in joy no matter what's going on around you! It's okay to acknowledge the things you go to for numbing yourself so you can let them go.

Look at those things so you can give them up for 2 weeks & see how you feel.

3) Find your center

Find something everyday that motivates you, find something that brings you to the center, find something that brings you back to your happy place.

Maybe that's meditation, maybe that's working out or personal development, maybe it's plugging into a podcast, maybe it's listening to a motivational speaker, maybe it's kicking ass in your biz, maybe it's going for a walk, maybe it's journal-ling, maybe it's reading a book or singing a song, whatever it is it's yours.

You've got to find something that you can do every single day to raise your vibe. It has to become a part of you, it has to become a habit that when you don't do it, you feel like there's something completely lacking.

You've got to really invest in it because here's whats going to happen. It's going to go back to number 2. So when you plug into something that gives you the spark, that gives you the happiness, that makes you feel successful or complete; something that raises your vibe so when the trigger comes that you want to do the thing that numbs you, you've got your "go-to".

And for 2 weeks you are going to plug into that thing that brings you back to your joy & to your happiness, that resets your vibe.

Here's what it's going to do to your subconscious -

1 - It's going to bring you back to your joy, you are going to be mindful of coming back to your job instead of choosing a number.

2 - It's going to show your subconsciousness that you can trust yourself. It's going to show your subconsciousness that you are in control of your emotions, not your day, not your circumstances, not how your biz is doing etc. You are showing yourself that you are truely in control of how you feel and once your subconscious can really accept that and your ego can take a back seat, you start being happy & joyful in every single moment of your life. You start being joyful right now, in this moment no matter what this moment is, you have control.

I'm not saying you'll never be sad, stressed or angry, you'll have those feelings but you'll always have joy & when you experience those things you realize that they are nothing more than just experiences. They are just moments that too shall pass.

But in that heart, you've got that powerful joy!

So I challenge you guys if you are willing to do this with me for 2 weeks -

Step 1 is assess your life and where you are in it right now & are your emotions your emotions or are they reactive to things around you? I know most of you are going to say - I'm reactive/ I'm a ping pong as people & situations around me dictate how I feel.

Step 2 is being real and figuring out what are the things you reach to to numb your emotions when your vibe is low or when you are feeling crappy?

Step 3 is deciding to no longer numb the crappy moments but to raise the vibe to that joyous state so you are no longer in numb-vile. And you believe in yourself, you empower yourself and watch it spread into your relationship, into your business, into your health, in your body & into your spiritual experience. It's going to spread into your light that you are putting into the world.

How To Make Manifesting A Part Of Your Daily Routine?

There has been a lot of talk around law of attraction more so than ever since people watched & read The Secret.

But what is Law Of Attraction?

Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on.

So, how does one apply the law of attraction? How can you attract what you want in your lives?

The answer is simple - Gratitude + Bliss aka improving your mindset.

Without being grateful for what you have, you can not attract anything in your life. And without having the right mindset - to stay positive, think happy thoughts & be grateful - you'll be doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud.

Here are some ways you can start leveraging the Law Of Attraction and make manifesting a part of your daily routine!

1) Make a list of all the things which make you completely happy.  Then go out and do it. See if you can fill an entire week of your free time with activities that are fun and emotionally rewarding to you.  

2) Get a journal   Every morning when you wake up, or every night before bed write out your feels about the way you plan to, or spent your day.  Make a point to express how you feel. Your feelings are extremely important because they inform the law of attraction as to your present vibration.

3) Each day search out activities that you may have wished to try but never got around to doing them.  The more new and fun activities that you engage in the more expanded you will feel.  You will naturally move into a higher more enlightened state. New activities open up your inner being much more than activities that you have become too familiar with.  When you are in a new environment you easily move into a more aware and open state.

Before you know it, you will be a change in your own personal energy.  Then you can begin to think more about what you would like to manifest in your life.  Be clear about your desire and allow the law of attraction to go to work to do wonders in bringing about your desires.  

To get the most benefits from the law of attraction, remember to do your best to stay in a state of joy and openness.  As you go through your daily activities you may not even be aware of it but you can easily shut down. Your old routine will easily hold on to old thought patterns--shake up your routine when possible and practice mindfulness and awareness to increase your manifesting powers!

Mindset Is Everything

When you think about the women you look up to the most in your life and in business, what comes to mind?

Charisma, experience, and expertise are usually at the top of the list, but would it surprise you to know that those are not the most important characteristics?

In fact, while those things do make a difference,  there’s one thing that is absolutely a game changer, and you can’t even see it.

Mindset.

It’s true. In everything you do, whether in business or in life, your mindset is the determining factor when it comes to your success and life. Without the right mindset, you will forever be attracting + working the wrong people, situations and even clients!

So if you’re really ready to manifest the life you WANT and DESERVE, you have to do some internal work. It’s time to make some changes to your own mindset.

Changing Your Attitude

One thing charismatic and personable people have in common is a good attitude. Think about it; you’ll probably never see these women you admire complaining about how the kids are sick, “again!” or that the cable repair guy is 40 minutes late, or even that the car blew a tire.

Instead, you see their expressions of gratitude in everything. If the kids are sick, they’re grateful to have a business that allows them to stay home and play nurse. If the cable guy is late, they’re grateful to have 40 extra minutes to read a book instead of watch television. And if the car died in the middle of running a week’s worth of errands, they’re happy to have found a mechanic who does great work at a reasonable price.

If you find yourself complaining—even in your head—turn your attitude around. There’s nearly always something to be grateful for, even in the worst situations. And when you can rethink and revise your attitude for the better, you’ll not only be happier, but you’ll start to attract what you actually WANT and love!

Growing Your Confidence

Here’s another thing these women you admire have in common: confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk with confidence filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening. They don’t question or dislike who they are.

It’s not cocky or arrogant, it’s just confidence. And if you don’t have it yet, you can take steps to increase it.

Start by asking yourself, in any new or uncomfortable situation, “What’s the worst that could happen?”

Of those worst-case scenarios, look at what you have control over, and let the rest go!

So if you’ve agreed to speak in front of a small group of business owners, and your fear is that you’ll flub your speech, practicing beforehand will greatly improve your confidence.

Next, get inside the head of someone who is confident in what you’re about to do. Walk onto that stage as if you’ve been doing it for years, and not only will you feel more confident, but you’ll be more confident. You can use the “as if” attitude in everything from creating a new product to closing a sale. Whenever you feel your confidence failing, just remember to act as if you’ve done this successfully hundreds of times.

Just like how the person you’re talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, and you can feel when someone in a bad mood enters the room --those around you (and the universe) can sense your mindset and respond accordingly!

My Planner Pick For 2018 + Other Office Favorites

Tools4Wisdom Planners 2018 Planner Calendar Year - 8.5 x 11 - Premium Hardcover with Full Color Pages - Daily Weekly Monthly Yearly Day Life Organizer w. Stickers - Dated http://amzn.to/2BIuiT0 

I’ve decided on my planner for 2018 and I highly suggest it. As business owners it is critical we stay organized. Not only that: setting goals is essential. Goals can be as simple as just tackling cleaning up a room or a huge as growing your business reach by 45%. There is no right or wrong goal – as long as you have one.

This planner helps you not only write down those goals but makes you actually think long and hard about them.. helping you walk through reaching those goals step by step.

First, you write down any ideas you might have. This is a great brainstorming session for yourself where you think of what you might like to accomplish during the year (either personally or professionally).

Don’t rule out anything.

Write it ALL down.

They actually give you things to consider be it health, career, personal, financial — whatever. They give you things to consider which actually might get those wheels turning to give you some ideas!

Next, you will look through your lists. You will prioritize them as a Top Priority (something you need to do), a Medium Priority (something you hope to do) or just Optional (if you can’t do it this year, it is not a big deal to you). Again, it helps you actually think about what you want to accomplish during the year and where you need to start.

From there, you will dig deeper into your goals. You will write down your goals for the year and answer the question WHY you want to reach them. It will then even give you space for some notes on what you need to do to reach those goals. Something that many of us forget to do.

We have the goal but don’t think out what we have to in order to make it a reality

From there, you will go through each month and write down your goals for the month including objectives to reach the goal. I love this because it allows me to plan ahead for my business.

This then turns into a daily planner. You can track your appointments and other things you need to do with smart daily layout. You can track what you need to do for that week and AGAIN – what steps you have to take to get that done.

I’ve used this planner for 2 previous years and tried A BAZILLION in-between time: this one is what I’m going back to for 2018.

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I am a pen, highlighter, marker FREAK.. 

Here are the super inexpensive neon ballpoint pens I got for 2018. Yes, I like to start fresh with new pens/markers too! 

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And my brain dumping, launch planning, big AUDACIOUS ideas all start on these giant-sized 3M Post It Notes which you can use for presentations too whether they are online in live videos, webinars or in person! The price for this 2-pack is a way better deal than you’ll find for the individual priced ones at most any office supply store! Trust me!

If you’re an entrepreneur, this is a MUST-HAVE! 

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